Hal (person) is home from work at last. When he has had a chance to get a shower and relax, we are going to one of our favorite places to eat. City Kitchen is a restaurant about 2 blocks away that opened a year ago. The food is always excellent and every Sunday night, excluding holidays, they have 1/2 price pizzas. It has become a routine for us to go there to close out the weekend and have a good meal and a good time.
This is not some extraordinary expense, 1/2 price is what got us going there in the first place. It is not the fanciest place in the world, but we don't need all the bells and whistles of some overpriced place. It suits our lifestyle and our budget, and most importantly, we love the place. We ha e told our friends all about it, but they seem too addicted to the DC establishments to ever venture out into the provinces like Alexandria. We consider this to be their loss.
I think it is important to have some routine in our lives that doesn't involve anyone other than ourselves for the most part. There is no pressure to make the time together any more special than it already is. The days of being social butterflies are behind us. We treasure our time together more than ever. When we were running around with our group of "friends" there was always the pressure of not excluding anyone or making some people feel more special than others. Personally, I always found that to be rather nauseating because no matter how hard you try to make it work, someone always ends up being angry or upset.
One of the secrets to a relationship that has lasted over 16 years is the recognition that we become one rather than two. We don't have to talk things out as much because we pretty much know what the other is thinking. With friends who seem determined to remain single it becomes more and more difficult to relate to them because their lives are seemingly on endless repeat.
We have decided that we will go on with our lives. The pizza night is a nice little distraction from things and gives us time together. That is the key to us being happy. Other people can be in our lives, but time has taught us that they have to be less intrusive and more stable for that to really mean anything to us.
The key is to be happy with yourself and your life. Everything else will fall into its proper place.